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Ok I live with my girl right now. I love her to death but she does nothing productive. She lost her job so now I am the only one working. She won't clean. All she does all day is sleep and play on the pc. It really hurts my feelings that she does not feel like she should put anything towards what we have. I feel like that since she is not working and i am bringing in 100% of the income that she should keep the house clean. I don't even ask her to cook. I have approached her about this before and told her how I felt and all she said was that it should be both peoples responsibilities to keep the house clean. But even if I try to help she does not really even do anything. Help me please try to think of something. I don't really want to leave he because I really love her. God I am so conflicted.
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shadowofchar
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Tell her that you should each be doing an equal amount of work, and that since you bring home the money (and cook, I'm assuming), she should clean the house and do the laundry. Tell her that because she isn't putting in as much of an effort as you are, you feel like she's using you/isn't as in love with you as you are with her.
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Open your eyes and look at everything or admit to partial blindness.
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QueenofHope
Wealthy Hobo
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Tell her to contribute or GTFO...or threaten to leave.
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"The one thing I want most for Christmas, is you." -Joep0113
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confuzion
Executive
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you need to tell her that she can't take advantage of you and that you will leave if she doesn't start helping. That's ridiculous, and you deserve better.
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"To the world you may just be a person, but to a person you may be the world."
http://www.socialvibe.com/?r=340035
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fullmooncurse
Wealthy Hobo
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Tell her to get off her lazy ass or get the fuck out.
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Talk to yourself and you'll hear what you want to hear.
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MakingaDifference001
Dairy Product Addict
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I take it that you're not the best at decision making? Should'be listened to your parents. tsk, tsk.
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So put your hand in the hand of mine and together we
shall walk through this valley of the shadow of death.
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hkittyly
Advisor
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i know you love her, but her not helping with the work is saying two things: she doesnt value what you two have, and she doesn't care about herself and how she lives. I'm not saying she would have to be anal about cleaning, but she should do some of the work. I dont know you or her, but all I can say is that if I loved someone truly and they loved me I'd be more than willing to do everything 50/50. If she really cared, she'd listen to your pleas. You are not wrong to ask her for help, you need to know that.
I know you love her, as you seem like a very good person although I can not tell really. I don't think she would deserve you.
But what the hell do I know. I hope things work out for the best.
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i just want to make it home in one peice...
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8:13 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 | Joined Dec. 2007 | 31 Days Active
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Asia Sha
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Sit her down and heart to heart about the way you feel towards the situation... You've the right of telling her what it is you need of her in order to have a life on such a rate.
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8:38 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 | Joined Aug. 2008 | 27 Days Active
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erolimo
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Talk to her and tell her what you have told us. If she isn't bothered, why should you be bothered to spend rest of your life with a girl who makes you unhappy?
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