How is one to go about this whole 'break' thing.  I have decided to not call her or bother her until she decides to call me.  But honestly, how can I go from speaking to someone who is my best friend every day for the last 2.5 years to not speaking to her at all.  Its SO hard already and its only been a few days now.  

By giving a girl space and not being whiny or clingly, does that sometimes help the situation?

Any advice on how to make this work would be great.

Thanks

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So my gf of 2.5 years recently decided she wanted to go on a "break" for the rest of the summer before going back to school. She wants to figure things out. (see my last post- I was in europe for 10 months and things were hard for both of us and she feels its hard to just bounce back into things because we both have changed).

How is one to go about this whole 'break' thing. I have decided to not call her or bother her until she decides to call me. But honestly, how can I go from speaking to someone who is my best friend every day for the last 2.5 years to not speaking to her at all. Its SO hard already and its only been a few days now.

By giving a girl space and not being whiny or clingly, does that sometimes help the situation?

Any advice on how to make this work would be great.

Thanks

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sometimes that helps,
but other times not talking to her could make you two grow apart.

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you're a regular decorated emergency.

All you can really do is treat her like any other friend, not your girlfriend, and just hope like hell for the best.

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I recall Arab kids slaughtered, reduced to sand-niggers and ragheads
And now I'm expected to mourn dead Americans?

You should really keep in contact...but only a little bit as shes on a "break".

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Webbie

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her wanting a "break" means that you should man up and "break" up with her

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Not neccessarily. Sometimes, 'taking a break' means just that. The girl needs some time to herself. Maybe she's having problems with family, or with friends, or with herself. She has to deal with those, before she can continue to date.

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i hate to say this but from what i know, when a girl isnt talking to her bf...is because shes found some one else.

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Not neccessarily, again. See above.

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*Forever & Always...Yours*

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Maybe she's having problems with family, or with friends, or with herself

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A friend of mine and his gf split up over that. So i guess we are both right in ways.  

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Webbie

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her wanting a "break" means that you should man up and "break" up with her

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Not neccessarily. Sometimes, 'taking a break' means just that. The girl needs some time to herself. Maybe she's having problems with family, or with friends, or with herself. She has to deal with those, before she can continue to date.

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not necessarily?
a girl can get "time to herself" while still dating a guy but just not spending as much time around him.

generally, if a girl is attracted to a guy, she will want to be around him and taking a "break" means that this is no longer the case.

if he gets the balls to move away from her rather than let her move first, chances are that she will realize that he's not needy (which is the opposite of what he's showing her right now) and probably come back to him.

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not necessarily?
a girl can get "time to herself" while still dating a guy but just not spending as much time around him.

generally, if a girl is attracted to a guy, she will want to be around him and taking a "break" means that this is no longer the case.

if he gets the balls to move away from her rather than let her move first, chances are that she will realize that he's not needy (which is the opposite of what he's showing her right now) and probably come back to him.

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When I'm attracted to anyone, that doesn't mean I want to be around them, 24/7. I need time to myself, sometimes.

And, sometimes, that means a lengthy break. When I'm having problems, with myself, and my family, me and mine come first. The boyfriend/girlfriend comes next in line, but they have to understand, I'm going to pull back. A 'break' will be taken. 'Break' can easily be in the same level as 'time to herself'. It depends on how you define it. For me, 'taking a break' means just that: Taking some time, away from my partner. A week, a month, a year, however long it takes.

When a girl, or a guy, makes the decision to 'take a break', the partner/significant other HAS to respect that. The other side would expect the same in return.

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*Forever & Always...Yours*

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Hate to be obvious but a "break" is normally just the run up to ending a relationship.

All you can really do is treat her like any other friend, not your girlfriend, and just hope like hell for the best.

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Not true. My friend was on a 'break' for about a month and got back together with her again and is still with her.

But yea, this sounds like it's over. You might want to just tell her to fuck off. Then she'll end up wanting you again anyway. Girls love the jerk.