That's a pretty tough situation. It's hard dealing with an ex. It almost feels as if you're walking on egg shells around them because the relationship is already so rocky, you don't want to do anything to tip it over the edge. [Such as not suggesting to leave.] What I personally recommend for you is to sit down and have a mature, one-on-one talk with your ex. It's nice that you both want to mutually work your relationship out. It shows a sense of maturity. Talking with your ex sounds silly, but it helps. If he doesn't seem approachable, do it anyways. You might surprise yourself. Some guys just like to be talked to like they're men. He probably felt badly that you weren't having a good time, and took it out on you because inwardly he was kicking himself for not realizing you weren't enjoying yourself.
Just be honest. Let him know that his overreaction caused you to feel terrible, and it wasn't an appropriate response to the situation. Let him know what you were feeling that night. "Honey, I stayed because you were having a good time. I didn't want to ask you to leave if you were having fun. I wasn't upset. I was just happy to spend time with you." If you're straight up honest and in agreement of things, there can't be an argument.
Men appreciate to be treated as such. Sit down, talk to him. In person, not on the phone. I'm sure, that way, you'll be able to work out the snarls and have a more happy and healthy relationship.
Post edited at 5:21 am on Oct. 11, 2008 by Jadien
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